Thomas R. L. Fetter

04/23/1943 - 01/02/2024


Obituary For Thomas R. L. Fetter

Thomas R. L. Fetter, 80, passed away at 4:48 am, January 2, 2024 at his residence.

He was born April 23, 1943 in Lima to J. Russell and Grethel Christine (Craig) Fetter who preceded him in death. On March 21, 1964 he married Jeryl (Jerri) Diane (Bahr) Fetter who preceded him in death on February 10, 1995.

Thomas "Tom" Fetter was a man who wore many hats, both figuratively and literally. Tom was a incredibly dedicated farmer who worked diligently to carry on the legacy that his parents, Russell and Grethel, left to him and his brother when they moved to Waynesfield and began farming in 1933. In addition to being a dedicated farmer, he was also a real estate agent with Seiling Real Estate and later became a broker and part-owner of Oakridge Realty, as well as Star Homes. Aside from his work-ethic, Tom was an avid story teller. He enjoyed talking... a lot ! Tom never knew a stranger and never failed to "shoot the breeze" and spark up conversation. He cherished farming with his son(s) and grandsons and bonding with his grandchildren/great-grandchildren. He loved his family dearly and worked timelessly to continue the legacy for his children and their children. Those who love him will miss his generosity, stories, and orneriness. They take comfort and peace in knowing Tom was a man who knew God. They find solace in the knowledge that he is now safe in the loving arms of his wife, Jeryl.

Survivors include: 2 Sons, Thomas R. (Daisy) Fetter of Lawton, OK and Todd M. (Audra) Fetter of Waynesfield; 7 Grandchildren - Kyla Fetter, Kellen (Amanda) Fetter, Keaton (Brynna) Fetter, Kieran (Samantha) Fetter, Hubertine Fetter, Brandon Fetter, and Michael (Megan) Fetter; 13 Great-Grandchildren.

He was preceded in death by: 2 Brothers, Robert (Ellen) Fetter and Russell Ronald Fetter.

Visitation will be from 1:00 PM until 5:00 pm Sunday and from 10:00 am until time of services at 11:00 am Monday at CHILES-LAMAN FUNERAL AND CREMATION SERVICES EASTSIDE CHAPEL with Pastor Pam Spencer officiating.

Memorial contributions may be made to New Hampshire Church of the Nazarene.

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  • 01/07/2024

    Sending our deepest sympathies, love and hugs to you all. I will always remember Tom for the wonderful loving family man he was.

  • 01/06/2024

    My earliest memory of my Uncle Tom was him taking my brother and me fishing at the pond beside his house. I believe this was the first time either my brother or I had been fishing. Uncle Tom fed the fish rice crispy cereal and they appeared to chase his shadow. When we dropped in our hooks in the water we seemed to catch an endless number bluegill. I also recall my Uncle Tom's willingness to help take care of family and neighbors. One summer when I was maybe 10 or 12, I spent a considerable amount of time at my grandmothers house while my mom helped strip and re-hang wall paper. This was an older farmhouse that needed more than the wallpaper fixed. I recall tagging along on multiple trips with Uncle Tom to find parts for things that he was helping to fix around her house. I liked the adventure as we seemed to go everywhere (his house, his parents house, barns, etc.) other than the hardware store to find what we needed. After a while he always seemed to find what he looking for and would have chatted with half the town along the way. Whether it was fishing for bluegill or hunting all over Waynesfield for a sink gasket, I equated spending time with my Uncle Tom to an opportunity for adventure. Along the way Tom provided a lesson on how to care for the people around you, like he did with my grandma and his neighbors. Uncle Tom certainly made an impression on me in my childhood and he certainly will be missed. I want to offer my and my family's condolences to the entire Fetter family.

  • 01/05/2024

    Sorry for your loss. Jay and Brenda Bailey

  • 01/05/2024

    I will always remember Tom's kindness, his hats and most of all his way to go directly to the point and speak common sense. He once told me there was more to learn traveling than seating in a classroom. More than 30 years later, after visiting quite a few places on this planet, I cannot express how much he was right. I wish I could have shown him my country too, but he always told me he was waiting for "the bridge over the big pond to be built ". He and Jerri hosted me as an exchange student for one year. What they both did for me positively impacted my life. I will never forget. It was a beautiful encounter. Thank you Tom. My parents join me to express their condolences we will always remember Tom as the nicest man. Ronan

  • 01/04/2024

    My late husband and I always enjoyed a visit from Jerry and Tom. Tom stopped by this fall to tell me of his illness and treatments. Very sorry I can not see the family as I am in South Carolina. Marge Cleaves

  • 01/03/2024

    So sorry to get the news of Tom's passing from my friend Karen Hollman. We were all classmates - class of 1961. My thoughts and prayers are with Tom's family at this difficult time. Karen Bailey Beers

  • 01/02/2024

    Prayers for your families.

  • 01/02/2024

    Thinking of the entire Fetter family at this time. Grandpa Fetter was one of the sweetest men. He will truly be missed by all. Thoughts and prayers, Mikaela

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